Why Are You Yelling?

It’s 5:30 in the evening and your trying to cook dinner.

It’s been a really long day and you have a lot on your mind.

As your chopping vegetables, your toddler keeps pulling at your shirt to show you something in his playroom, your 5 year old is running in circles around your table screaming at the top of his lungs, and your husband just texted that he’ll be late for dinner.

You feel your anger start bubbling up.

All you want to do is get freakin dinner ready…but your kids are driving you crazy!

Often times we yell or get mad at our kids for reasons that have nothing to do with them.  We are stressed, disorganized, distracted, or tired, so we don’t have the patience we need with our kids.  We end up taking out our frustrations on them.

I recently asked the students and alumni in my Mama’s Anger Management Support Group to tell me when they feel like they are most likely to yell.  Here are many of their answers.

Lack of Self-Care

• We are hungry or tired…or both!
• Feeling overwhelmed by life
• Haven’t had any “me time”
• Haven’t showered.
• Feeling alone

Stress

• In a rush or running late
• Feeling overwhelmed
• Fights with others
• Unprepared for the day
• Unorganized

Sensory Overload

• Too many noises all at once
• A messy house, stuff everywhere
• Feeling hot

 

 

Being Distracted

• Talking on the phone
• Being on the computer
• Trying to read
• Talking with others…including your spouse
• Thinking through problems

When Things Go Wrong

• Unexpected problems pop up
• Plans fall through
• Unmet expectations from others

This is only a handful of times and situations when we as Mom’s can lose our cool.  As you can see, a lot of times we yell, not because of our kids behaviors, but because of all the other stuff going on in our life.

It’s ok though.  Once we are able to pinpoint the times and situations that we are likely to get our anger triggered, we can work around them.  Being aware of them is sometimes all it takes to center ourselves and handle the problem without yelling.

So take a look a the list.  Are any of these triggers for you?  Do you have triggers that aren’t listed here?

If you haven’t yet, you can grab the free Trigger Tracker I made here.

This is just one part of my 4 week course, Mama’s Anger Management.  I know you are tired of feeling angry, worn down, and frustrated at your children all the time.  I know how to help you.

This course will transform you into a parent who can handle your kids with grace, calmness, and love, no matter what they do to push your buttons.

You can be the happy Mom that your kids want you to be.  Mama’s Anger Management can help!