I got angry last night…again.
I’m not even sure what brought it on, maybe it’s because we’re getting ready to go out of town and my brain is spinning with all the things that need to get done.
Maybe it was because my boys were so loud while I was cooking dinner and it grated on my nerves and made me snippy.
It was probably a combination of everything, plus hunger. I always get mad when I get hungry.
I remember telling my husband when we first starting dating that if I was ever cranky for no reason, to try feeding me first. Hangry (angry because you’re hungry) is a very real thing for me.
Anyway, so last night…
By the time we sat at the table to eat, my mind was spinning and I wasn’t talking to anyone in my house. I wasn’t yelling, but I certainly was surly.
I sat there looking around the table, teeth clenched, and I told myself to snap out of it. Nothing bad had happened, I was just being grumpy.
Just Snap Out Of It
A few years ago, this grumpy me was the norm. I acted this way all of the time.
I couldn’t tell myself to snap out of it. I allowed my anger to take over.
In fact, a few years ago, I’d probably end up yelling at my family before I even realized that I was feeling surly and grumpy.
But this time, I recognized my mood going south and I silently focused on one of my favorite calm down tips. It’s something called the four senses (I teach it is my Mama’s Anger Management Class) and was able to quickly calm myself down and enjoy dinnertime with my family.
As the anger melted away I could feel my muscles relax and suddenly everything slowed down.
I laughed at my children’s funny antics, I smiled at my husband across the table, and we ended up having a good dinner with great conversation.
Sounds magical, right?
Here’s the thing.
It’s not magic. It just takes a little time, the right tools, and practice and you can be a calmer mama too.
Anger Is A Normal Emotion
Anger happens to all of us. It’s a normal emotion that we all feel because we’re human.
It’s okay to be angry.
That being said, I know you don’t like yelling and being grumpy with your children.
The guilt after you blow up on your kids is so heavy. I know because I’ve been there too.
I share about anger and yelling a lot because I’m a recovering angry mama myself. Some days I do really well, other days (like last night) I struggle with keeping my cool.
But I will say that most of our days are pretty happy and I haven’t blown up into a Hulk Mama who screamed at my children in years.
I am human and I do still feel anger, I just have the tools that help me control the anger before I explode.
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