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50 Calm Down Tips for Parents

Stay calm, just stay calm.

Sometimes that’s easier said than done when you’re raising kids.

Kids are great at pushing boundaries and making mistakes.  Sometimes what we need are a few good calm down tips to keep us calm when we feel like exploding.

It’s true, when we are calm, we can address a situation so much better than when we are angry.

So, how do you stay calm?

I have come up with 5 calm down categories.  I’ll give you a few examples of each, and then at the end of the post, you’ll get a copy of 50 ways to calm down.

I hope that this helps you stay calm in the chaos of raising kids!

When anger creeps in and makes you want to scream at your kids, this will help! Seriously, this is beyond awesome. Parenting | Motherhood

Move

Moving our bodies is a great way to get out some of that anger.  Whether it be cleaning your house, going for a walk, or shaking it off, physical movement gets out some of that pent up aggression in healthy ways.

This can help deal with some of that emotional flooding we feel when we get angry.  It helps bring your brain functioning to a place of logic instead of it’s primal emotional place.

Plus, exercise releases feel good endorphins into your body and is an instant mood lifter.

Play

This is by far my favorite way to calm down in the moment.

Starting a tickle war, making silly faces, and laughing it off helps change the entire mood of the house.  Not only do you calm down, but you get your kids attention and it’s just another great way to connect with them.

The power of play is strong and real.  I dare you to try this and see for yourself.

Relax

Sometimes we just need to physically calm down and relax our bodies.  Taking hot showers, listening to calming music, or deep breathing can help us relax the anger away.

If you don’t get space from your kids to relax, I have a video in my course, Mama’s Anger Management, that gives you 3 easy ways to relax your body…even when kids are around.  It’s probably my favorite part of the entire course.

Get it out

When our emotions really bubble up, sometimes the best thing we can do is get it out.  Go outside and scream, and if you feel like you need to scream at your kids, scream “I LOVE YOU!”  Those 3 words will remind you that you do love your kids, even when you’re angry.

Once you get that initial burst of anger out, it’s time to focus and re-access the situation.  Going into ranting and raving isn’t always all that helpful, but you can talk it out.

Talk

I’m a big talker.  I mean, I talk ALL day long…mostly to myself. So, when I’m angry I like to talk it out.

Now, this does not mean venting and raging.  Those things aren’t really all that helpful when it comes to dealing with anger.

I mean I make noise.  I count out loud, I make the “shhhh” sound, or say a few good mantras to calm me down.  I will also talk to a friend about things and get some advice.

There are a lot, I mean probably hundreds, of ways to help calm down or to keep us from yelling.

I’ve just compiled 50 of my favorite ways to calm down and put them in a handout just for you.

Click the button below to get your copy!

 

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by Amanda 17 Comments

Filed Under: Anger Management Tagged With: Motherhood, Stop Yelling Challenge

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Comments

  1. Natalle

    March 25, 2015 at 10:28 am

    Hi im a mom of 2 and I have an anger issue, always screeming and yelling at my kids… I realy do need help

    Reply
    • Amanda

      March 25, 2015 at 4:51 pm

      I really do hope that these tips help you out. Also, check out my course on parental anger. It’s guilt free, and full of information about anger, like why we get angry, how to stay calm, and how to interact with our kids when we do get angry. Lots of other parents have taken it and have seen some awesome improvements in their lives, and their children’s behavior. Here’s the link, http://dbparenting.com/mamas-anger-management

      Reply
  2. Donna Edmonds

    March 25, 2015 at 4:44 pm

    Very helpful tips

    Reply
    • Amanda

      March 25, 2015 at 4:51 pm

      Thank you!

      Reply
  3. Cynthia

    March 26, 2015 at 10:37 am

    Thank you, this is what I need right now. Our family is going through a lot and it has been very stressful. I know that anger is a secondary emotion and I think I am avoiding some issues because they are painful. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Amanda

      March 26, 2015 at 3:46 pm

      Yes, anger is usually a secondary emotion and stress can exacerbate it too. I hope that this handout helps you find some tricks to find the calm again. I’m sorry you’re feeling pain…it makes everything harder.

      Reply
  4. Obaima Arikekpar

    August 11, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    Thanks. Very helpful

    Reply
  5. lilia

    November 22, 2015 at 10:06 pm

    Wonderful. This what I needed. Thanks.

    Reply
  6. Teri

    January 26, 2016 at 10:48 pm

    Am anxious to read and try it out. Thank you!!

    Reply
    • Amanda

      January 27, 2016 at 10:09 am

      You’re welcome!

      Reply
  7. Irene

    February 22, 2016 at 10:04 am

    Great reminders, I’m a mother of three and sometimes we forget. I recently made a reward chart for my kids with happy faces if they do kind things and don’t argue. I put myself on it too, to remind me not to yell.

    Reply
  8. Terry B.

    May 7, 2016 at 7:57 pm

    I am a grandmother who retired at 58 years old to babysit our granddaughter (M) full time. She will be two in less than a month. Since her parents get home late from work it is a long day for me. I sometimes find myself losing my cool and yelling at M. She is very independent and it can be a struggle. Would you suggest your course or is it just for moms?

    Thanks,
    Terry B.

    Reply
    • Janel

      March 16, 2017 at 9:47 am

      HI Terry,
      I think this course is for anyone that has a child in their care. Whether you are a Mom (You are if you are a Grandmother..) or a child care provider. So take this course, read the literature and make a change. It is very helpful. I too have a past of yelling at my children (7 of them ages 2 and up!) and have been reading this and finding it does help. I have to read it every day and practice it. That is what life is all about. Practice. So good luck with your 2 yr old Granddaughter!

      Reply
  9. Steph F.

    September 29, 2016 at 3:26 pm

    Thank you for these tips!! I’m a mom of 3, soon to be 4 (!), and I think this needs to be posted in a prominent place in my kitchen so I see it all the time!!!

    Reply
  10. Paige

    December 5, 2016 at 5:01 pm

    But why is the cycle so obvious, yet so hard to identify in the moment? Tension builds, kids (3-5yrs) do exactly the same thing they did yesterday to push my buttons, and I’m yelling, yet again. I’m a smart person. Why am I not doing better each time my kids and I have an “episode”? It’s like there’s no retention. Wouldn’t I eventually say “Hmmm. This looks familiar – tantrum, negotiating, just plain not listening. You’re smarter than this. Don’t get angry at this silly stuff, again.” But, I don’t. I yell and scream, recover and feel like I was having an out of body experience wondering why I can’t get a handle on this. Help!

    Reply
    • Summer Cox

      August 21, 2017 at 5:39 pm

      This is excellent, Amanda. I’ve just been compiling a list of my favorite stress resets and found you! I appreciate the support and ideas.

      Reply
  11. LeeAnn

    December 28, 2016 at 1:45 pm

    I’m a single mother of one and I’m a yeller. I suffer from anxiety and it stresses me out, big time. It’s challenging at times, I’m not the perfect mom. I didn’t know what to do when my son would throw a fit or when he would get into things he’s not supposed to, but then again, I remember, he’s too young to understand.
    “Move”; I’ll put on some happy music, pick up my son and dance with him. His smile makes me so happy and it calms me down. Or, I clean. Cleaning keeps my mind busy and I stay focused on it until I’m done. “Get it out”, I’ll sing to my son, he smiles so big when I sing to him, (I may not be the best singer, but hey, he likes it) and it fills my heart with joy!

    Reply

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