It’s my Golden Rule.
It is THE Golden Rule….Treat my kids the same way I would like to be treated.
It’s that simple.
I try very hard to put myself in their shoes and be respectful of their feelings, time, and work.
Here’s what I mean.
I don’t make them stop playing without prior notice. I let my three year old finish or prepare him for stopping at least 20 minutes in advance. I do this because play is his work. When I’m working, I get angry and frustrated when I’m interrupted. Kids get angry and frustrated when they get interrupted too.
I don’t tell them how to play. Again, play is their work. They get to decide how they want to do it. I don’t like someone breathing down my back or telling me how to do things, when I’m working, so I don’t do it to him. I follow along in their play, and let them decide if I can join and what my role will be.
I don’t get into power struggles and force them to do things. I provide choices and they get to decide. My 3 year old doesn’t have to put on a jacket if he doesn’t want to. I provide the jacket, he decides if he wants to wear it. How am I to know if he’s cold or not? I don’t want anyone demanding that I do something, I prefer choices too. (This does not mean we don’t have rules, we most certainly do!)
I use kind words and talk nicely about them to others.
I keep my promises. I don’t lie. I don’t hit.
I listen to them.
Am I perfect, and do this all the time? No. I make mistakes and royally screw up sometimes, but I try.
Simply, I treat them they way I would like to be treated.
The best part of following this rule? Children will listen more, yell less, and be more respectful too.
Because really, the only way to get respect, is to give it first.
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