One of the interesting things about motherhood, or maybe life in general, is that there are seasons. There are times when we are super happy and life is good, and there are times when life just sucks.
Overall, I truly believe that happiness is a choice most days. It’s not based on our current living situations or life stressors. It’s a choice we must make every single day.
But, there are going to be times when making that choice is hard. Oh, so hard.
I recently got a comment on my Mom Funk post that really made me think.
“I can relate to this, yes, but it’s easy to just say “get up and get out of the house” or “do something.” While I really do like this post and agree with it, I’m also tired of bloggers telling me how to feel and “what to do to fix it.” What I need is my husband not to have to work so much. What we need is help and a better support system, not to clean something or make a list. I wish it was that easy.”
Trust me, I know how this woman is feeling. I also don’t have a local support system and my husband often has to be away from us for weeks or months at a time. Even without those specific stressors, I bet you have felt like she feels.
I get emails daily from women who are struggling with this exact same thing. Women who feel like they don’t get a second of time for themselves, no time to do any of that self-care stuff that I preach about. Women who feel totally unsupported and lonely. Women who are searching for that happiness.
But again, happiness comes from within. But how do you find it? How can you make that choice when all you see is the pain and frustration?
You must notice the happy.
- Slow down and take the time to notice the beauty of life around you.
- Notice the small things that bring you joy. Write it down, take a picture of it, capture it somehow in your heart.
- Think back and remember the things that used to bring you joy, write them down, and start focusing on those things again.
- Start a daily gratitude journal, and write down the things in your life that you are thankful for.
I bet that after just a few days of intentionally finding joy in your life, you will feel more at peace and happier about life in general.
Happiness isn’t a fleeting thing that only comes to you when the stars align and life isn’t stressful. Sometimes we need to be intentional about being happy. We have to go look for it.