Yelling. I’ve talked a lot about yelling at our kids over the past few months.
I’ve decided that in order to really stop yelling, we need to focus on our behaviors AND our discipline techniques.
I talk a lot about how to control our emotions and how to take care of ourselves so that we feel better and therefore less likely to yell. We’ve talked about:
But controlling our emotions may not be enough.
What do we do when our kid’s behavior is just so frustrating and we’ve had ENOUGH!?
We yell.
No matter how great we may feel, or how calm we may be, there are times when we just lose it.
We need better strategies for dealing with our kids.
We need to find ways to take the stress out of parenting.
We need a plan.
That’s where Amy McCready from Positive Parenting Solutions comes in.
I share my parenting tips with you on this blog, but Amy, she’s got a method. She’s figured it out and she’s put in all in one place for you.
Her “How to Get Your Kids to Listen without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling” Webinars are amazing. She gives some really simple, yet effective ways of managing your children’s behaviors in a calm matter of fact way. I’ve tried them, and they WORK!
Parenting expert and “recovering yeller” Amy McCready is the Founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and the author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time…The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding or Yelling. Amy is a regular parenting contributor on The TODAY Show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CBS This Morning, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, Steve Harvey and elsewhere. In her most important role, she plays mom to two teenage boys.
Yelling is so ingrained in many of us. Sometimes we need a coach to help us rise up out of our comfort zone to be able to grow. Love this.
Yep, it is really ingrained and hard to change. Amy has some really great tips and can give some one on one help. Sometimes just having someone to talk it through can be so helpful.
Any future plans for repeating this? Thanks.
Ive had to listen all week to my brother n law yell at my nephews. Im livid. He is not helping any behavioral issues but bullying them. Hes a great dad but cutting a kid down and he belittles them it is awful. I have a friend tht screams at her kids in an awful screaching sound drives me insane but…..I will say Ive never heard her cut them down. They tune her out. What is wrong w people. Yes, ive had a child he is now 22. There is no perfect parent lord knows I wasnt but I dont ever remeber doing tht much yelling. My nerves cant take it and I am adult. I dont know how these kids feel. Its insane. Im trying to figure out how to handle this w my brother n law before I get even madder and Im almost mad at my husband for not saying something. Heres a 9 year old just sitting there having to be called a sissy and fat and scardy cat. Its senseless. This is a good kid. The other one has a few behavior issues but wonder why? I mean really? The mother has even told him about it. He needs help. His mother mentally abused him and my husband and he thinka this is ok. Im trying not to be ugly to him but sometimes I think hes such a moron he doesnt listen but if I yell at this grown man Im not doing any better than him! Im sooo upset#
Verbal abuse usually indicates some level of physical abuse exists. I’m not sure what state you live in, but in PA you can make an anonymous call to child welfare and report “suspected abuse”. Someone will visit the home and decide whether or not abuse exist in the home. Even if they decide there’s no abuse, the visit alone may give your brother-in-law a reality check. However, if they do suspect abuse, they will require him to go through anger management and possibly parenting classes. They only take children out of the home if the child is in immediate danger.
I would never suggest being dishonest to your husband, but this is something that I personally would take to my grave. Only for the sake of keeping peace in my family. Your husband may not understand your reasoning if he too was raised in this type of environment. If your brother-in-law acts like that outside of the home, they would never know you actually made the call.
It’s so difficult when my kids are yelling at me! It’s also very obvious that when my voice raises, the relationship between my kids and I gets strained. Thanks for the article.