Today I have something special for you! I am super excited to share with you my first video! Recently, I’ve had several readers ask about the relationship between my two boys and how I handle sibling conflict.
It’s such a big topic, that I’d end up writing a super long post that most of you would probably not read. Come on…I know you wouldn’t have. Who has time to read long posts with kids around? But, I hope you take the time to watch the video I put together for you.
In it, I discuss our current sibling problem, and how I’m handling it. Hope you enjoy!
So, what do you think?
Thank you for your very interesting video! We just had a baby (2 months ago), and we already have a 3 year old boy. The situation is quite new to us and I’m sometimes desoriented when my oldest boy has an inexpected tantrum since his little brother was born. But, every time I have the possibility, I try to make him talk about his feelings: “You’re upset, Marcus. – YES! -Why? -I don’t know! -Is it because I’m holding your baby brother/I have to feed him instead of playing with you/I don’t have time to listen your story (it depends on what happened).” It’s not perfect at all, but sometimes it works and he starts to be calmer. I hope he’ll learn to express his feelings before becoming angry. This is how we handle things at the moment, but it’s not satisfying …yet! 🙂
I’m french (we live in Paris), so my english is not very good , and I’m so sorry for my mistakes!
I loved this! We haven’t run into too many issues yet (we have a 4 month old and 2 1/2 year old), and so far my son has been great with his sister. But, as she’s starting to grab at things, including his toys and his hair, clothes, etc. I can see where the frustration is going to start. I love your suggestions to get down on their level, help them express their feelings, and then help them come up with a solution rather than punishing them for reacting to something that would be frustrating! I’d get frustrated and mad if someone was constantly coming and messing with my stuff, so I feel like it’s really important for them to know that you understand, but that you need to deal with it in an appropriate way. So I think what you’re doing is great! And I’ll definitely be coming back to this as these kiddos get a little older 🙂
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This is such a big issue in our house that we deal with everyday. Thank you so much for posting! We have a 2 year old and 8 month old. It’s so hard to balance and meet everyone’s needs, thanks for the ideas!
I’ve come a long way in my parenting skills, but this is still the issue that continues to stymie me! My 4 year old has some language difficulties so he can’t verbally problem solve with me at the level you are describing – not yet, anyway. I try to do sort of the same thing but I have to keep the dialogue much, much simpler. “Talk, don’t push” – “Are you angry, or sad…?” – “Could you trade with him?” and so on. But his frustration threshold is pretty low and often it devolves into me simply physically preventing him from hitting, biting, and scratching anyone (sigh!) while continuing to try to empathize and accept his feelings. It seems to come in waves over time, like maybe there are underlying issues developmentally or emotionally that crop up and cause more tension sometimes.
I have a seven years old girl and a four and half girl too they r always on fights and coming complaining that one of them hits the other, and the elder girl always interrupting her younger’s talks for she to continue and take the parole she doesn’t want her even talk and they start the fight between the elder take the talk and the young saying no, not happend, not like that
that and starts crying