One of the biggest struggles I have as a Mom is that I don’t have a tribe. Currently, I don’t really have any local Mom friends. I have a few acquaintances here, but I certainly don’t have a good girlfriend.
You see, being a military spouse, I move around the country a lot. To give you an idea of how often we have moved over the past few years, my 4 year has lived in 4 different states. Every time I’ve moved, it didn’t take me long to find my people…until we moved here.
I don’t know if it’s the fact that I have two kids this time or what, but I’ve had a hard time connecting with other Mothers here.
When I think about it though, I’m not really trying all that hard. I meet Moms every day at the park, library, and grocery store that are super nice, but I just haven’t taken that step to become friends with them.
When I saw this video last week, I got inspired. So, I’m planning on asking this awesome Mom I’ve run into at preschool drop off if she’d like to do lunch one afternoon.
I’m nervous…but it’s time.
I hope that if you’re a lonely Mama like me, that this quick and funny video inspires you to reach out.
Help me out! How do you meet new Mom Friends? Apparently, I can use all the help I can get!
I like this post. Its so relevant to where most of us are as mothers. I had kids before most of my premotherhood friends and it puts me in a predicament where I can’t really relate to them as much.
I love this post! It can be so hard making new friends as a new mum. I wrote about this really funny (and true) book a while ago and am trying to put some of it to use, just like your movie inspired you! Thanks for posting it. It made my day.
http://www.themessyorganicmum.com/2012/09/mwf-seeking-bff.html
Amanda, I was so surprised to hear this as you seem like a mom everyone would LOVE to hang out with! As a fellow military spouse, I empathize with your situation and completely relate. I too struggle to make friends with whom I truly feel a connection. Isn’t if funny how friendship is like dating sometimes? It takes a bit of time for an acquaintance to turn into a good quality girlfriend you can trust. Plus, when moving around all the time, it’s hard to make friends, knowing that we will be leaving again soon. I’ll be thinking of you and hopeful that you will be able to connect with a mom in your area.
Hi Amanda! I love your blog but I’m really surprised to read this post! I just didn’t imagine this would be a problem you’d have. If I were the other mom, I’d take you up on it. I can relate to feeling disconnected after our move. Especially since I went from a working mom to a SAHM in a new city. I was freaked out! On top of that, I’m an introvert! So I wrote about a few of the methods I used to get connected as a SAHM. One I left off the list was bible study (there are some that offer child care during the day). Good Luck! Here’s that post I wrote in case you’re interested! I hope you update this post to let us know how it’s going. http://www.intentionaldabblings.com/5-ways-to-get-connected-as-a-stay-at-home-mom/
This is one of my 2015 resolutions! Making new friends. I’m working as a substitute teacher and come home to a 4 and 2-year-old. I would love some mom friends to text, share pinterest pages, like their photos on FB, and, more importantly, have somewhere to take my kids to on those rainy and cold Seattle days! I have two friends now, that I am so grateful to have, but we just are connecting like we used to. If I were to be a SAHM again I would go back to Meetup and join a small handful of local SAHM meetup groups. Then I’d join a bookclub at my local library (I’m an introvert too, like one of your commenters posted earlier), and then as a family we’d try to go to our local church’s many family functions. Not sure why the excuse that ‘if I were a SAHM’ allows me to do these things, but not as a working mom.