I could write thousands of posts on mom guilt. Thousands.
Mainly because I hear from so many Mamas out there who are dealing with heart crushing guilt about their parenting or not feeling like they are enough.
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Recently, I had someone email me and ask how they can get rid of mom guilt all together.
I laughed, not because of the question itself, but because I struggle with Mom guilt every single day and I’d love to be done with it.
Right now, I’m feeling pretty good about my parenting and we are on a great path. But, I have other types of guilt. Guilt about not being able to balance my family life with my blog. Guilt about not doing enough for my son’s preschool class. Guilt about not being a good enough wife. Guilt about having someone else watch my kids so I can take a breather now and again.
No matter what we do, it seems like guilt is just part of a Mama’s life.
But, there are a couple of things we can do to prevent it from taking over a Mama’s life.
Focus on the Good
When you’re feeling really bad about your parenting or the choices you have to make for your kids, remind yourself of all the good you are doing. Focus on the good instead of the bad. Remember that you are a Good Mom!
Be kind to yourself
One of the things that has helped me a lot is just knowing that I’m human, I make mistakes, and I can’t do it all. As mothers, we have such high expectations for ourselves and we feel guilty because we can’t do everything we’d like to do. It’s important to remember to be kind to ourselves, we’re only human after all.
Talk about it
Find a good friend or family member and talk about the Mom guilt. Unfortunately, many parents in our society don’t feel comfortable talking about the bad parts of parenthood. We are supposed to show only the awesome Pinterest worthy stuff and ignore the hard stuff. But the truth is that parenting is hard, and I bet that if you open up to another parent who you love and loves you that she’ll say “oh, me too!”. There is so much healing in those words.
What do other’s say?
I asked my wonderful Facebook community to give me some of their tips for dealing with Mom guilt. They came up with some great ideas!
So, can we ever get rid of Mom Guilt once and for all? Um, probably not. But by focusing on the good, having appropriate expectations, and talking about it we can help deal with some of that guilt.