When I was in undergrad, I distinctly remember sitting in class and watching my professor show us scientific evidence proving that life happiness declines dramatically when we have children..and stays that way until the oldest child moves out of their parent’s home as a young adult.
Divorce rates skyrocket, people get diagnosed more with mental health problems like depression and anxiety, stress goes up, and overall satisfaction with life declines.
So, when got pregnant a few years later, I was scared.
I wanted to be happy. I loved my husband and didn’t want to end up in a divorce. I was scared that just because I had kids, my life would be so much harder and I’d be miserable.
Then I had a child…and 2 years later had another.
Now, 4 years later, I’m still pretty happy and my marriage is still strong.
But, am I as happy as I was before I had kids? Hum…
I think I’m pretty happy, but I do get angrier faster and I do have a lot more stress.
But am I just as happy as before? Yes, and no. Let’s just say…it’s just so different.
A few months ago I was watching a few TED talks and stumbled upon one from the co-founders of Babble. They are married and parents to three little boys.
In their TED talk they discussed the decline of happiness during child-rearing years and figured out that it’s not all doom and gloom as it appears.
This video only shows a snippit of their entire talk (about 3min), but the whole thing is amazing. Just replay it if you want to watch the whole thing…I suggest you do.
And that pretty much sums up my current level of happiness. A bunch of transcendent moments…that I wouldn’t ever give back.
So, is life harder? Yes.
Is it worth it? You bet ya it is.