Last Friday I started the Stop Yelling Challenge. I decided that I would not yell at my children for an entire year, work on my attitude and the way I handled conflict in my family.
I knew I needed to find a way to hold myself accountable and get support when things get hard. So, I invited anyone who wanted to stop yelling to join a facebook group so we can all support one another.
I expected that a few people might join, but I didn’t have high hopes.
By the end of the day, the group had 100 members.
By the end of the week, we’re over 550 people strong.
I was…and still am…shocked.
Honestly, I knew people yelled at their kids, but some days it feels like I’m the only Mom out there who can’t always get her emotions in check for her children.
Sometimes it feels like it’s just me.
I don’t like to talk about my insecurities, my frustration, my loneliness, and certainly not my anger. So, I build walls around those feelings. I hide them away and put on a happy, “I’ve got this” face.
Then on Friday, those walls started to crack a bit. As each new person joined the group and told their story, pieces my walls started to shatter. Actually, walls all around the globe started breaking down.
People in the group were saying things like:
“I have to say I am so happy to have found this group. It is such a huge relief to see the things that happen in our home happen in everyone’s home.”
Suddenly, we are all there…no walls…we are all exposing our truth….we all yell.
We are not alone.
And that, my friends, is so comforting.
Throughout the week, the cobwebs of my Mom Funk have started to shed and I’m seeing the beauty of the world around me again. My attitude has changed and I’m happy.
You know what? Not being alone in my struggles anymore really helps.
I’ve had a few rough spots throughout the week, and moments where I wasn’t sure if I could keep my cool, but I did.
Having the support of the group lifted me up and reminded me that my kids deserve better, so I must be better.
One week down….51 to go!
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It can change your family!