She rushes into the building, looking a bit frazzled. She’s holding her toddler under one arm, and she’s holding her preschooler’s hand with the other.
My friend is late for preschool drop off and I can tell she’s had one rough morning.
She looks at me, and says “How do you do it? The mornings just kill me!”
I admit, I am totally one of those Moms. I’m a bit Type A and I’m always, always on time.
Now that’s not a “hey look how much I rock” kind of thing. It’s just that I’m so anxious about time that I just can’t be late…it ruins my whole day. Anyone who knows me, knows how painfully true this is. It’s not always fun my friends.
Anyway, I talked to my friend later and she genuinely wanted to know how I do it. So, this post is for you.
Dear sweet friend,
Get Up Before the Kids
I know, I know. You probably don’t want to hear this. But, when we take a few minutes to get ourselves put together and ready for the day, it’s amazing how much smoother the morning will go.
I’m not talking about getting up and hour or more before your kids, although that would be best, 10 minutes will work too.
The important thing is to get woken up, possibly drink a cup of coffee, and get an attack plan for the day.
I know you’re not an early riser like me, and that’s okay, but this is really the most important thing I do every morning. I love being able to get everything ready before my kids get up. Sometimes I take a shower, pack bags, start breakfast. But most of the time I just enjoy having some me time before the chaos begins.
Anything you can do before they get up is one less thing you have to do when you’re in a mad rush later.
Personally, I am not one who picks out clothes the night before. You know my son, he would decide that what he wanted to wear the night before isn’t what he wants to wear the next morning, and then he’d totally fall apart.
Plus, I’m tired at night and just don’t want to take the effort to do it.
This way, he has a weeks worth of outfits to pick from in the morning. All he does is grab an outfit roll from the drawer and get dressed.
He ends up wearing something that I approve of and he still gets to be independent and choose what he wants to wear. It’s a win-win.
The Morning Routine
During hard times of the day (bedtime and mornings usually being the hardest) it’s important to have a good routine. Every morning we do the exact same thing, no matter where we go, or what time we have to leave.
Here’s our routine:
From that point on, we either play until it’s time to go, or we get our shoes on and head out the door. We discuss the plan for the day during breakfast, so the boys know what’s expected of them.
Most days it’s work first (getting ready) then time to play.
Have a Set Place for Shoes, Bags, and Jackets
Children as young as your two-year-old can be responsible for getting their shoes and jackets. The trick is, that they have to know where they are.
One of the best things I’ve done when it came our morning routine, is having a place for our stuff.
For example, our shoes are in the closet and we have a little bench where we sit to put on shoes.
When I say that it’s time for shoes and socks, my boys get their own shoes and come sit at the bench where I’m waiting. Sometimes it does take some cajoling and asking to get them to stop playing, but once they do, they go right to it.
We also get jackets at this time, and our bags are ready and packed on the table heading out the door. I usually do this during playtime or when I’m cleaning up the kitchen in the morning.
When it’s built into your routine and you do it the same way every day, it’s easy for them to just do it…without a lot of stress.
Now, hear me friend. The most important part of a morning routine is being consistent. Once your kids start doing the same thing every single morning, it starts becoming routine. You won’t have to nag (as much) because your kids will just know what’s expected of them.
Also remember that, your family is different than my family. Our routine may look different than yours. Sit down, and figure out what your family needs and make a routine that works for you. Don’t just take mine and make it fit with you…there’s a good chance it won’t work.
I really, really do hope that this helps your mornings.
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