Hey there Mama, did you know that you are awesome?
I know, I know you might not feel that way sometimes, but you really are.
You do so much for your family and your kids.
It’s hard sometimes though to really FEEL like you’re awesome. Especially when we look around at the other Mama’s around us.
You notice Moms actually going to the gym to work out. You see another Mom who not only took a shower today, but managed to put on makeup and a rockin outfit. Then there’s that Mom who calmly handled her toddler’s tantrum without raising her voice in the middle of Target last week.
“Why can’t I do all those things?”
Then you compare and remember all the things you can’t do or all the times that you might have made a mistake.
Remember that quote:
It’s so easy to not FEEL good enough. And when we compare ourselves to others, or even our own perception of the parent that we should be, we lose the joy.
So here are 3 challenges you can take to today that will help you feel like that awesome mom you are.
Notice the Good
Can you remember the last GOOD thing you did as a Mother? Maybe, maybe not.
But, I bet you can remember the last time you felt like you screwed up.
You probably remember because it’s easier to remember the bad stuff…it leaves a lasting memory sometimes.
We are so easy to beat ourselves up about how we think we failed…again, but we hardly ever take the time to notice the good stuff we do.
But I bet you that every single day you do something good. Whether it be a warm smile and a hug when your child woke up this morning, or just the fact that you fed your children today, you did something good.
When I was working my way out of my Mom Funk, I spent some time journaling. One thing that I did, that helped tremendously, was to write out 3 good things I did that day. I helped me focus on the good stuff I did instead of all the negative stuff. It’s amazing what that small practice can do…you should try it.
Take Care of You
Self-care is imperative. It’s the cup analogy that I’ve been using for years.
You must fill up your cup so that you have something to give. When you have nothing left to give in your cup, it’s easy to become an Angry Mama.
But, when we are so busy taking care of our kids, our spouses, our work, and our community, it’s hard to find the time to take care of ourselves.
So I challenge you to find the time for you. Wake up early, carve out moments in your day, ask for help from friends. Remember to spend this time intentionally. Don’t waste it, and Savor the solitude.
Remind Yourself That You Rock!
You are exactly the Mama that your kids need. They need you and you ROCK!
Banish the negative self-talk that plays through your head throughout the day and replace it with a better recording.
“I am awesome!”
“I can do this!”
Even if you might not believe it at first, eventually if you keep telling yourself that you are great, then you’ll start to believe it.
Find a mantra or quote that you can say to yourself in the morning and throughout your day.
Need some tips…here’s my Mommy Mantra’s Pinterest Board.
Follow Amanda:: Dirt and Boogers’s board Mommy Mantras on Pinterest.
This Motherhood gig is hard…no doubt. But when we can take the time to take care of ourselves and shake out all the negativity, it’s amazing how much better we can feel. And, when we feel better, we are better Mamas to our kids.
So do these challenges not only for yourself, but for your kids too!
Thank you for this post! It is such a great reminder and it is so true, unfortunately!
What I’ve learned to do whenever I catch myself comparing is to remind myself that “the grass is always greener on the other side” – that mommy who looks so put together when dropping off her kids in the morning, is probably in a terrible rush to get to work and feeling guilty that she cannot stay longer or pick up her kids earlier. Or the mom who had time to cook an amazing meal and clean the house and sort the mail and etc, maybe didn’t have any time to play with her kids and ended up stressed out and miserable instead despite the great things she’s accomplished during that day… So thanks for the remind that comparison IS a thief and to remember that only YOU know what is best for you!
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Love this post! Sharing on my facebook page!
Thank you 🙂